Alan F. Parker of Danville, Vermont, passed away in late hours
of June 16 at Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center after a very
brief illness. He was surrounded by loving family and friends,
with the music, prayers, laughter and openness of heart that
meant so much to him. For the past 10 years Alan served as
the pastor to the United Church of Craftsbury.
Alan was born on Jan. 30, 1952 in Mt. Kisco, N.Y. At the age of
one, Alan and the growing Parker family moved to the old Ward
homestead in North Danville where they "learned" (quite
slowly) how to farm. Alan grew up with a love of fishing,
gardening, hunting, baseball, church and community. He lived
in North Danville, Hardwick and Newport with his parents
Scudder and Bets Parker and later in the Danville/St. Johnsbury
area with his mother Bets and step-father C. Peter Albright.
Alan graduated from St. Johnsbury Academy in 1970 and
attended Wesleyan College. Alan, a passionate reader, thinker,
historian, and independent learner, finished his bachelor's
degree at the Community College of Vermont. He could
complete the NY Times crossword puzzle (even Sunday) even
faster than he could get the dishes done.
Alan's abiding love of music led him into an early career as a
disc jockey for both WTWN/WSTJ in St. Johnsbury and WNCS in
Montpelier. Alan could always summon the appropriate song for
any occasion or to illuminate a story. Alan loved acting and
singing in school and community musicals and Gilbert and
Sullivan was memorized and would frequently erupt in
unexpected situations, in chorus with his brothers. Most
recently Alan found joy and comfort as a member of the
hospice singing group Continua. Eleven members of Continua
gathered on three hours notice at Dartmouth Hitchcock to sing
for family and friends.
Alan cared deeply for agriculture and forestry, and believed that
caring human use was part of a healthy environment. He
worked for Northern Woodlands magazine, The Nature
Conservancy, Ben & Jerry's, Cabot Creamery, Kilfasset Farms,
the Northern Organic Farmer's Association, and the Dairy Herd
Improvement Association.
Alan, like his father before him, studied for ordination with the
Vermont Conference of the United Church of Christ and was
ordained in 2013. He had begun preaching in 2006 at the
United Church of Craftsbury. He quickly grew to love his
congregation and the wider community. He understood that
faith expresses itself most clearly in welcoming the stranger
and building strong, trusting relationships. He was proud that
the Church hosted community suppers; he cherished his
relationship to Sterling College, served as President of the
Board of Directors of the Craftsbury Community Care Center;
and he kept learning from his parishioners and neighbors.
In his home community of Danville, Alan had served as a
Deacon in the Danville Congregational Church, served on the
Danville School Board; directed school plays and coached Little
League baseball.
Alan was married to Elaine Grace Stone for 11 years. They had
two children, Amos and Ben. Alan loved spending time with his
family and friends, fishing with the boys in Houghton Brook,
playing catch, reading bedtime stories (well past the boys'
bedtime) and working for hours in the garden.
Alan was married to Valerie Ducharme for 10 years and was a
loving husband as well as step-father to Anthony, Josh, Adam,
and Aimee Ducharme.
Alan and the love of his life, Ginny Flanders, built a rich and
wonderful world together over the past 16 years, along with
Ginny's children Tamsin and Jed. They created a flourishing
homestead, raising food, flowers and animals; fostering
discussion of and support for social justice; and creating a place
of welcome and comfort for family, friends and newcomers alike.
One of Alan's final, but most loved roles was that of grandfather
to George and William, Ben and Liz's sons. Time with "Crampa"
(as he was known by George) was precious, full of wonder,
monkeying around, love, and being sung to sleep to "Amazing Grace."
Alan is survived by his life-partner, Virginia Flanders, Danville;
mother, Elizabeth (Bets) Parker Albright, Danville; sons Amos
Parker (Jennifer Andrews), Dover, N.H.; Benjamin Parker
(Elizabeth Steele Parker), Montpelier, Vt.; step-children Tamsin
Flanders, western Mass.; and Jed Flanders, Eugene, Ore.;
siblings Scudder Parker (Susan Sussman), Middlesex, Vt.;
Stephen Parker (Susan Terry), North Danville, Vt.; Malcolm
Parker (Julianna Simon), Addison, Vt.; step-siblings Barbara
Albright (Jacob Allen), Tucson, Ariz.; Peter L. Albright (Karen
Bucke Albright), Richmond, Va.; and Matthew Albright,
Lyndonville, Vt.. He is also survived by his cherished
grandchildren George and William Parker, great-uncle Van
Parker (Lucille Parker), North Danville, Vt.; six cousins, nine
nieces and nephews, and seven grand-nieces and nephews.
Alan was predeceased by his father Scudder M. Parker, his
step-father C. Peter Albright, and his sister Sally Cort Abdalla.
A celebration of Alan's life will be held Monday, June 20 at 3
p.m., at The Danville Congregational Church, Danville,
Vermont, with the Reverend Douglas Carter officiating. The
family asks that in lieu of flowers, any special remembrances of
Alan be in the form of contributions to the Craftsbury
Community Care Center and/or the Pope Memorial Library for
the Danville Community Center capital campaign.
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